I once heard a guy tell me that women hold grudges for ever, and men put things behind them. I've discovered the secret.
I (like many other girls) have been screwed over by far too many guys in my life. Guys seem to think that once you fight something out, it's fine the next day - when it's their fault.
Truth is, is that guys just aren't as wise in thinking ahead. It's human nature to forgive for a few mistakes. But a repetative occurence is called a habit. And habits are tough - some say impossible - to break. If something has happened once or twice, and it's forgiveable, it's ok. But on to the fourth, fifth, sixth time? It's not acceptable.
I'm smart enough to know that guys are clueless about themselves. Its the same reason males have less self confidence issues. It's because they're blind. They don't see it when they're being dumb (for lack of a better term.)
They lack so many common sense skills. I can't think of one guy that has the intuition, common sense or ability to change that a woman does. I'm not saying I'd like to be surrounded by women - because I can't stand a lot of them.
I'm rambling know. Bottom line is that when it gets to a point with any male figure that I can assume when a fight, argument or problem when occur, it's time to move on.
Monday, July 25, 2011
Thursday, July 21, 2011
Return to blogging.. finally.
It's 11:50. I'm still in my pajamas watching what not to wear about a cat obsessed cellist (sp?). It makes me feel better about myself. How bad does that sound? Welcome to life, kids. I'm not the kind of person who will put other people down or stab them in the back because it helps my confidence level. I think that's awful. But sometimes I'll look at someone who is clueless about life or that has a bad attitude or whom doesn't appreciate what they have and think "wow, it sucks to be that person."
I've been riding horses since I was 7 years old. I'll be 16 in late August. Horses are a cut-throat industry. In Ohio, where everything began for me, sportsmanship was a good thing. I remember being at multiple shows, riding lessons, etc. where everyone, even complete strangers, encouraged each other.
I was in one show where there were two girls in my Training 2 dressage class. The other girl and I were practically the same. We were even riding the same horse. It was tough competition! She had tacked up our horse and when she was done in the warmup ring, it was my turn to warm up. I trotted the horse around the first corner and I hit the ground. All I could think was "dumb bitch didn't tighten the girth." But when I stood up and dusted my shirt off to go catch the nutso horse I had a better thought. It wasn't her fault. It was mine. I know I'm supposed to check the girth before I mount up.
She apologized over and over. I put the saddle back on, handed her the reins and said "don't worry about it, everything is okay, good luck." I wasn't mad. I was shaken, sure.
Another girl I knew who wasn't riding that day gave me a huge hug and said to forget about it, I was an awesome rider and everyone knew that.
It was my turn to ride my test and I did almost perfectly. We floated through the test. Easy. Piece of cake. After the final salaute, I was relieved, but it wasn't over.
After the tests were scored I went to see how I did. There was a blue ribbon laying there with a trophy, next to a red ribbon. I was nervous. Although second place isn't bad, no one else had to know it also meant last. The trophy and the blue ribbon were picked up and my heart skipped a beat, and then they were handed to me. The red ribbon went to the other girl, but we were both satisfied.
The point of the story is, karma happens. And winning fair is the best feeling in the world.
I went to a show at the end of May where I live now, in Minnesota. I rode in two jumper rounds, and one hunter round. I had probably 30 to 40 people in each class - big show. I had never ridden a hunter round in my life, I'd always been a jumper. I went into the hunter ring and actually had a good round, but what I heard when I left the ring was absolutely terrible. Three girls sat ringside and laughed at me. I had worked at the barn where these girls kept their horses. I jump higher than they do. And I'm a hard worker. I ignored them and moved on with my life, but it still sticks in my head that people can be so cruel.
The best policy for sports is this:
Keep a level head; think before you react. There are consequences for actions and reactions.
Winning doesn't mean you beat everyone else. Winning means you come out of the ring, field, court, etc. feeling like you've accomplished something. And just because you didn't win doesn't mean you lost.
What goes around comes around. The person you just made fun of may just kick your ass later, because they've got a better attitude than you.
It's all about the heart. If you don't have the heart, fire, passion and spirit to do what you're doing, then stop doing it.
And lastly, never give up. Anything you thought was worth doing in the first place is always worth giving another shot. Don't ever regret anything that made you a better person. Everything makes you a better person.
I've been riding horses since I was 7 years old. I'll be 16 in late August. Horses are a cut-throat industry. In Ohio, where everything began for me, sportsmanship was a good thing. I remember being at multiple shows, riding lessons, etc. where everyone, even complete strangers, encouraged each other.
I was in one show where there were two girls in my Training 2 dressage class. The other girl and I were practically the same. We were even riding the same horse. It was tough competition! She had tacked up our horse and when she was done in the warmup ring, it was my turn to warm up. I trotted the horse around the first corner and I hit the ground. All I could think was "dumb bitch didn't tighten the girth." But when I stood up and dusted my shirt off to go catch the nutso horse I had a better thought. It wasn't her fault. It was mine. I know I'm supposed to check the girth before I mount up.
She apologized over and over. I put the saddle back on, handed her the reins and said "don't worry about it, everything is okay, good luck." I wasn't mad. I was shaken, sure.
Another girl I knew who wasn't riding that day gave me a huge hug and said to forget about it, I was an awesome rider and everyone knew that.
It was my turn to ride my test and I did almost perfectly. We floated through the test. Easy. Piece of cake. After the final salaute, I was relieved, but it wasn't over.
After the tests were scored I went to see how I did. There was a blue ribbon laying there with a trophy, next to a red ribbon. I was nervous. Although second place isn't bad, no one else had to know it also meant last. The trophy and the blue ribbon were picked up and my heart skipped a beat, and then they were handed to me. The red ribbon went to the other girl, but we were both satisfied.
The point of the story is, karma happens. And winning fair is the best feeling in the world.
I went to a show at the end of May where I live now, in Minnesota. I rode in two jumper rounds, and one hunter round. I had probably 30 to 40 people in each class - big show. I had never ridden a hunter round in my life, I'd always been a jumper. I went into the hunter ring and actually had a good round, but what I heard when I left the ring was absolutely terrible. Three girls sat ringside and laughed at me. I had worked at the barn where these girls kept their horses. I jump higher than they do. And I'm a hard worker. I ignored them and moved on with my life, but it still sticks in my head that people can be so cruel.
The best policy for sports is this:
Keep a level head; think before you react. There are consequences for actions and reactions.
Winning doesn't mean you beat everyone else. Winning means you come out of the ring, field, court, etc. feeling like you've accomplished something. And just because you didn't win doesn't mean you lost.
What goes around comes around. The person you just made fun of may just kick your ass later, because they've got a better attitude than you.
It's all about the heart. If you don't have the heart, fire, passion and spirit to do what you're doing, then stop doing it.
And lastly, never give up. Anything you thought was worth doing in the first place is always worth giving another shot. Don't ever regret anything that made you a better person. Everything makes you a better person.
Sunday, July 3, 2011
Phone Contract. (Miscellaneous Ranting)
So while reading an acquittance's blog, I found that she had made her son sign a phone contract. Stating his curfew, his financial obligations and that his parents could take his phone and go through it any time they wanted. I am perfectly okay with agreements between parents and their children. I don't know HOW it went down. But I feel as if a contract should be mutual. I've had a phone since 5th grade. I'm going into 11th next year. I've never had to have a contract with my parents about it. Nor have I ever had it taken. They've never gone through it, either.
Regardless of trust, kids do things that parents wouldn't. It's that simple. As a kid, if our parents had the same technology we do, they'd understand.
Now, I'm going to take a third person stance, because I'm not sure who reads my blog. But I don't personally know anyone who is a heavy "sexter", but I know that many kids/teens do it. I also know plenty of adults do too! But parents, riddle me this. Wouldn't you rather have your child exploring sex in a text message than in a bed belonging to a member of the opposite sex? You can't get STDs or babies from texting. Chances are, if you're kid is texting about it, they're not doing it. If your kid had the guts to actually do the things they're "sexting" about, they'd be out doing it, not just talking about it.
And putting the phone up at night. *sigh* I feel as if most parents do this because they know it'll give them a chance to snipe it and go through it. This is so irritating. What's the purpose? Our parents parents couldn't just go through their kid's conversations. Granted, people actually talked to each other back then. But honestly, is that the best thing you've got to do? Instead of going through their phone, go talk to them! Be involved!
My mom and I fight sometimes, obviously. But she doesn't need to go through my phone, laptop, etc. She knows everything! She knows about my friends and my male interests and the music I like and the pictures I post on facebook. She's also aware that I'm almost 16. Yes, I say damn, shit, hell, and the occasional fuck. But guess what, so do adults!
I know many kids who've been extremely restricted their whole life. And they get out on their own, and they fall apart. They're let off the reins and don't know what to do. So they just go, with no direction. One of my close friends has very ~VERY~ controlling parents. And unknown to them, she rebels every chance she get. Just because it's the only freedom she gets.
I guess some people will never understand. If you leave your kids to figure some things out, and support them along they way, they'll turn out alright. I mean look at me, I hold down 4 jobs (stable hand, rehabbing a horse, exercising two more. Oh, and I also do office work for my parents AS WELL AS train with my horse every day) and I'm in training to become an Olympic athlete. I also have good grades, am bilingual, am in honors classes (some senior, while I should only be a junior) and I'm beginning to pick out high goals for college.
And guess what? I never signed a phone contract.
P.s. If you've restricted your kid so much that they need a phone contract, they probably won't be talking to any girls or bad influences anyway. So that should ease your mind about him doing anything dirty or inappropriate on his phone.
Regardless of trust, kids do things that parents wouldn't. It's that simple. As a kid, if our parents had the same technology we do, they'd understand.
Now, I'm going to take a third person stance, because I'm not sure who reads my blog. But I don't personally know anyone who is a heavy "sexter", but I know that many kids/teens do it. I also know plenty of adults do too! But parents, riddle me this. Wouldn't you rather have your child exploring sex in a text message than in a bed belonging to a member of the opposite sex? You can't get STDs or babies from texting. Chances are, if you're kid is texting about it, they're not doing it. If your kid had the guts to actually do the things they're "sexting" about, they'd be out doing it, not just talking about it.
And putting the phone up at night. *sigh* I feel as if most parents do this because they know it'll give them a chance to snipe it and go through it. This is so irritating. What's the purpose? Our parents parents couldn't just go through their kid's conversations. Granted, people actually talked to each other back then. But honestly, is that the best thing you've got to do? Instead of going through their phone, go talk to them! Be involved!
My mom and I fight sometimes, obviously. But she doesn't need to go through my phone, laptop, etc. She knows everything! She knows about my friends and my male interests and the music I like and the pictures I post on facebook. She's also aware that I'm almost 16. Yes, I say damn, shit, hell, and the occasional fuck. But guess what, so do adults!
I know many kids who've been extremely restricted their whole life. And they get out on their own, and they fall apart. They're let off the reins and don't know what to do. So they just go, with no direction. One of my close friends has very ~VERY~ controlling parents. And unknown to them, she rebels every chance she get. Just because it's the only freedom she gets.
I guess some people will never understand. If you leave your kids to figure some things out, and support them along they way, they'll turn out alright. I mean look at me, I hold down 4 jobs (stable hand, rehabbing a horse, exercising two more. Oh, and I also do office work for my parents AS WELL AS train with my horse every day) and I'm in training to become an Olympic athlete. I also have good grades, am bilingual, am in honors classes (some senior, while I should only be a junior) and I'm beginning to pick out high goals for college.
And guess what? I never signed a phone contract.
P.s. If you've restricted your kid so much that they need a phone contract, they probably won't be talking to any girls or bad influences anyway. So that should ease your mind about him doing anything dirty or inappropriate on his phone.
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