Boys:
When you were younger, and you got hurt, what did your father tell you? Yes, that's right, "Take it like a man."
But what does it mean to "Be a Man"? Does it mean to not cry when you fall off your bike? Or does it mean to be a douche to every girl you possibly can? I feel like no one really knows. I sure don't.
Urban Dictionary defines it as, "Be a man, do the right thing"
But I got some insight from my close male friend...
I asked: Define the meaning of the term be a man and how it's often confused or misused
He replied: To be a man is to step up or man up.It's all about showing courage and not being a bitch about something. Like "Be a man and hit this, chief,"
I then asked: How about emotion wise? Do you feel like a real man would be a douche about things to his girl or like he should be real with her?
To which he said:He should most certainly be real with her. But at the same time, not turn into a pussy with his boys.Being a man is about honesty and taking responsibility.
I trust this friend more than most of my family. He's helped me through so much. But like every other guy, he has his douchey moments. He does realize what it's like to be a man though. He's held me while I've cried, in nothing more than a loving brotherly, "It'll be okay" way.
Being a man is a very broad subject, and is hard to define without a specific instance. A real man wouldn't lie to a girl for 7 months and 2 days before he fessed up to her. He'd be real with her up front. Men hunt for sex. And I realize that. And that's fine. Girls (including me) have sexual wants as well. But that doesn't mean we're willing to lie for them. If a guy wanted a girl for only a sexual experience, he should tell her that first. Guys love for sex, and girls sex for love. There's something extremely wrong with that statement, but I've fallen victim to both parts of it, (kind of, I'm still a virgin, but you understand the point). Anyhow, I conclude with this; guys, if you decide that you have any possibility of loving a girl, please, please tell her the truth. And more importantly, tell her only if you mean it for the right reasons. Be. A. Man.
Sources: Jim Cairns and Urban Dictionary
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Just a Note..
Just a note: I've blocked most of my blogs. They will be unblocked soon. Until then, Peace J.U.M.P.4Life
Saturday, January 29, 2011
Opinion: Liars.
We've all lied. You've lied. I've lied. Everyone does. But at what point has a lie gone to far? Here's what I think.
I feel the need to cover three things about liars.
1. Intelligence.
2. Emotions.
3. Confidence.
Intelligence
If you're a smart person, then you'd know one of two two things.
1. Lying gets you nowhere.
or
2. You're smart enough to fix or prevent the things that would be needed to be lied about.
I'm intelligent. But sometimes it's like my brain dies and a lie slips out. But I've never lied to the point of tearing someone apart. I remember in elementary school when the worst lie you could tell was when you'd sit on the playground blushing and saying "no" when someone asked you if you liked your crush. When my crush asked me if I liked him, I said no. And I meant it. Because I didn't like him. I loved him. You can say that you can't love at a young age. But at 15, it's possible. I'll come back to love later though.
Emotions
Emotions are a huge part of lying. Not emotions such as love or hate. Emotions such as regret. I am one of those people that lives by the motto "You can't live regretting living." But I feel like regret and remorse are very confusable. When Person A lies to Person B, neither one of them may be feeling anything unusal. But when Person B discovers the lie, they're most likely to tell Person A. Person A will most likely apologize. But does that mean the feel bad? Probably not. They don't regret the fact that they lied, they regret the fact that they couldn't successfully live the lie.
Confidence
Liars have the lowest self esteem. I'm a bitch. And I accept that. I get it from my mama ;)
No but on a more serious note... I don't understand why people choose to live lies. I'm me and that's how it is. I put up my gaurd alot, but that doesn't mean I'm not me. I feel like if everyone could just be proud of who they are and not worry so much about what everyone else wants them to be, then maybe we'd have a little more honesty in the world.
In Conclusion...
Love isn't about perfection. It isn't about money. It isn't about any of the things that eminem raps about or that Taylor Swift perpetually bitches about. It's about being transparent to your "partner". Also, it's about not expecting perfection from the person you love. Love is about being strong for each other, but being real too. Love isn't about finding the perfect person, it's about finding the one you're willing to look past the imperfections for. It takes a strong, smart and emotionally sound person to be honest in love. But I end with this...
Being a strong person isn't about playing defense. It's about being strong when everyone expects you to fall apart. To stay honest with everyone. Especially those whom you love. I learned today what betrayal feels like. It isn't a stabbing chest pain. It's a slow, torn apart pain. If you're still reading, you're most likely exceptionally bored. So I'll bring this to an end. But saying I love you translates to hundreds of other words, all in very plain simple English. And don't forget that.
I feel the need to cover three things about liars.
1. Intelligence.
2. Emotions.
3. Confidence.
Intelligence
If you're a smart person, then you'd know one of two two things.
1. Lying gets you nowhere.
or
2. You're smart enough to fix or prevent the things that would be needed to be lied about.
I'm intelligent. But sometimes it's like my brain dies and a lie slips out. But I've never lied to the point of tearing someone apart. I remember in elementary school when the worst lie you could tell was when you'd sit on the playground blushing and saying "no" when someone asked you if you liked your crush. When my crush asked me if I liked him, I said no. And I meant it. Because I didn't like him. I loved him. You can say that you can't love at a young age. But at 15, it's possible. I'll come back to love later though.
Emotions
Emotions are a huge part of lying. Not emotions such as love or hate. Emotions such as regret. I am one of those people that lives by the motto "You can't live regretting living." But I feel like regret and remorse are very confusable. When Person A lies to Person B, neither one of them may be feeling anything unusal. But when Person B discovers the lie, they're most likely to tell Person A. Person A will most likely apologize. But does that mean the feel bad? Probably not. They don't regret the fact that they lied, they regret the fact that they couldn't successfully live the lie.
Confidence
Liars have the lowest self esteem. I'm a bitch. And I accept that. I get it from my mama ;)
No but on a more serious note... I don't understand why people choose to live lies. I'm me and that's how it is. I put up my gaurd alot, but that doesn't mean I'm not me. I feel like if everyone could just be proud of who they are and not worry so much about what everyone else wants them to be, then maybe we'd have a little more honesty in the world.
In Conclusion...
Love isn't about perfection. It isn't about money. It isn't about any of the things that eminem raps about or that Taylor Swift perpetually bitches about. It's about being transparent to your "partner". Also, it's about not expecting perfection from the person you love. Love is about being strong for each other, but being real too. Love isn't about finding the perfect person, it's about finding the one you're willing to look past the imperfections for. It takes a strong, smart and emotionally sound person to be honest in love. But I end with this...
Being a strong person isn't about playing defense. It's about being strong when everyone expects you to fall apart. To stay honest with everyone. Especially those whom you love. I learned today what betrayal feels like. It isn't a stabbing chest pain. It's a slow, torn apart pain. If you're still reading, you're most likely exceptionally bored. So I'll bring this to an end. But saying I love you translates to hundreds of other words, all in very plain simple English. And don't forget that.
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